Today is National Donut day!?

Remember yesterdays post, about eating better?  Now would be a good time to go read that: It’s like they know I need to lose weight

This, in my opinion, is another major downfall in our country.

We, as Americans, promote obesity,

and we are afraid to tell people that they are overweight, because they may feel shame…

Just like Thanksgiving, National Donut Day is an excuse to eat unhealthily. Why? It’s because we are Americans, and we can do what we want.

That mindset needs to go.

I hate to be the guy to ‘ruin a good thing,’ but that’s just the type of person I am.

It’s this shameless marketing scheme, the world is now built on, where we want instant gratification, all of the time. It’s why gas stations are open 24/7 and businesses force their underpaid employees to work on Holidays.

What happened to us? Why are we giving up on the important values, we once held, as family driven communities?

Clever marketing happened. You believe that you are to feel good, all the time, that nobody is allowed to tell you you’re wrong, and that the things you want are instead things you need.

I could ramble on about this, for days, but the cut-and-dry fact of it is this: We, as a people, need to quit being so damn greedy. We need to quit catering to our wants, and worry about what’s really important.

Anyone else remember the ’90s?

  I remember my parents having cookouts for our neighbors, instead of worrying about what they were doing on the other side of the fence. I remember going trick or treating, with a group of my peers, and not worrying about anything. I remember getting on my bicycle, on a Saturday morning, and riding around my neighborhood, with my friends, until the street lights came on. We didn’t stare at our phones all day, we didn’t have the world’s entire encyclopedia of knowledge at our fingertips…

and ya know what? We were happy.

 

So, My challenge to the world is this: Go introduce yourself to your neighbors. Go to the grocery store, buy some chicken, pork chops, steaks, vegetables; or whatever it is you like to eat. Invite those neighbors over, learn about them. Be social, without staring at your phone… Don’t be so afraid of the unknown. Don’t be afraid to admit that you’re wrong, or that you don’t know something. Google may have all the answers, but sometimes you have to figure things out for yourself.  Stop being so offended by everything. Embrace your flaws, and learn to love yourself, before you can eliminate the things you are ashamed of.

I’ll be back shortly with the “Daily Prompt” I just had to get this off my chest.

As always, thank you for reading!

It’s like they know I need to lose weight

Portion Control

Uh oh… This one’s aimed right at my gut…

Look, I’m not a mammoth of a human being, but I’m a hell of a lot heavier, than I want to be. Can I get an Amen, who isn’t?

Taking a desk job has just about been the literal death of me, and things got very real at my last annual checkup. I’m all about getting high scores in the videogame world, but blood pressure of 165/90-something is not a high score to be proud of.

So, what have I done to fix it?  I didn’t do body wraps, or THRIVE (I have my own rant about that crock of garbage), or any of these gimmicks…. I started exercising and controlling the amount of food I eat!

Now, I love food… a lot.. I love cooking it, smelling it, eating it, everything about the endless combinations is fascinating to me… Unfortunately, when both you and your wife are exceptional cooks, you tend to eat a lot. Here’s a few things I’ve tried, to curb my tendencies to overeat:

  • Buy smaller plates: This sounds ridiculous, but it works. 8″ paper plates, from Sam’s Club, are the way to go. Only fill them once, with whatever you have for dinner, and JUST EAT THAT
  • Stop Buying Lunch: Spending 6 dollars a day for lunch at work, is just ridiculous. Plan something tasty and that is healthier than your current eating habits, and stick to it!  OR, Since you didn’t eat so much for dinner, take some of those delicious leftovers!
  • Cut Down On Drinking: I’m no alcoholic, but I do love to unwind with a tasty beverage in the evening. Whiskey and Vodka don’t have the calories that beer does, but mixing it with coke is waaaay worse. If you HAVE to have a drink, try mixing it with Coke Zero, Pepsi Max, or Sprite Zero. Less calories and sugar = less fat.
  • Stop Eating Garbage: I know, you work hard. You don’t feel like cooking, and it’s just easier to order out. Not only is it expensive, it’s really REALLY REALLY unhealthy.
  • Vitamins & Water: Remember, your body tells you it’s thirsty, the same way it tells you that you’re hungry. I drink about 3/4 – 1 Gallon of water A DAY.  In the same breath, you’re probably not getting all of the vitamins you need.  Find a good well-rounded multivitamin and TAKE IT EVERY DAY!

    Here’s what my wife and I started doing: She did some research and found a pile of delicious crock-pot meals, then made up a large list of ingredients (we stuck to pork, beef, and chicken proteins with similar ingredient recipes). We then went to the Grocery store, spent less than $300 (I know it sounds like a lot, just bear with me.) and managed to make 32 meals out of it, that are frozen and ready to stick in the crock pot. No extra cooking involved, just toss it in, go about your day, minimal preparation, and we eat GREAT.
    * Buy crock pot bags, they make this all so much easier.

So, there you have it. You can do it, if I can. I’m down about 10ish pounds from where I was, and as I get more active in the Spring & Summer, hopefully I can reach my goal of losing 35 pounds.

Have a great day! Sorry I kind of fell off of the face of the planet.

I can’t figure this out…

This isn’t so much a post, as a “How the hell am I supposed to do this?!”

I absolutely, for the life of me, can not figure out how to get my site to properly display my Twitter feed….

I’ve tried the widget, I’ve tried direct HTML, I’ve tried everything!!

How the heck does it work?! Help!!!

Dehydration and Rock & Roll

Happy Monday…

What. A. Weekend!

My band played the Lifting Little Lives benefit this weekend, and what I remember of it was great!!

Lifting Little Lives is a local nonprofit organization based out of Milton Pennsylvania, that raises money for local children, with big needs!

My band, Audiobox, chose this group for many reasons.
• The money all stays local, So we see its effects in our community

• The people who run it, are some of the best people we’ve ever had the pleasure to         work with.

• The organization helps promote our struggling music scene. (This should be key         for any musician!!)

• All of us are fathers, and we understand that our children are the most important        thing in today’s society.

That being said, they throw one heck of a party! The security keeps it safe for everyone, and the connections I make with other musicians, are generally very long term friendships!

Also, there’s great food, beer for anyone staying there, and just so many great times to be had!

That’s why I named this blog, the way I did. I generally drink a ton of water, usually about a gallon or more a day… This weekend that water was replaced with beer & Jameson. Phew… My poor body is in recovery mode…

Not only did I play an awesome, all original set with Audiobox, I also was the emergency backup bassist for local heavyweights “Aftermath.” I was honored to tickle my 4 strings with them, and it was a fun set!  On top of all that, Audiobox also did an impromptu acoustic set, between two other acts (make things transition smoother.)

Anywho, it was a great time, and if you have a minute, check out Lifting Little Lives, and let them know that what they do, is very important to the world.

Are there any local charities in your area, that you think go above and beyond the call of duty? Let me know! At the very least, I can give their Facebook pages a like!

As always, thank you for your time, sorry I didn’t post yesterday, I’m lucky I could even move!

-Joe

 

Joe Flair’s search for patience

Anyone who says being married takes a lot of patience, has never had kids.

Let’s rewind a few years… I was, for all intents and purposes, a mess of a human being. I was single, after a long relationship. I filled my spare time up with playing music (be it gigs, sitting around my house, or jamming with friends), work, and drinking..

I did whatever I want, whenever I wanted… and I was still unhappy!

Then, August of 2013, my life changed drastically. I met the woman who is now my wife, and not too long after, my first two kids! I was now suddenly a 25 year old, who knew nothing about raising children, and I guess didn’t quite understand the gravity of what I was doing. My wife is a patient woman, she’s a great mother, (we’re on our way to our 4th daughter), and she’s a patient wife. 

I know I’m not easy to live with… I can be loud, I can be distant, I don’t do well in large crowds of strangers (says the guy in a regionally popular rock band.. but more on that some other time), and I had a lot to learn when I first took on being a dad… on fact there’s always more to learn!!

I grew up in a very non-traditional way.. my parents trusted me, expected me to carry my weight, be responsible, and let me fend for myself… I didn’t get handouts, hell i never even asked.. it was disrespectful, in my mind.

So, naturally, I grew into a very stubborn adult.. Until this point in my life, I did things my way.. Surprisingly, I never failed to feed myself or have a roof over my head…

Now, here I sit on my couch with my almost 2 year old, trying to keep her comfortable and quiet… since 4AM, when her older sister (4Y.O.) woke up in a panic from a bad dream/having to pee… 

If you would have told me, 5 years ago, that I would be in this situation today, I would’ve laughed in your face… I never was going to have kids… It was nothing but a hinderance in my mind…

Boy, was I wrong… I love my children, more than words can describe… raising them has taught me so much. I am more patient and calm, then i ever was.. I still get to be a musician (by the grace of my awesome, patient wife.), and there is nothing like the feeling of being wanted, as much as those children want you to love them.

It truely is the greatest job in the world.

Now, on to my patience… I was raised with discipline… Sometimes more harsh than it should be… but, ya know, it was the 80’s and 90’s and a totally different era. In my mind, quick and harsh was the best way to scold… (like ripping off a verbal band-aid)… It didn’t take me too long to realize how ineffective that is. Especially with daughters (i was raised around my younger brother… little girls were always a mystery until now..) 

It’s more effective to calmly explain to a child that they are disappointing you, rather than explode… Being put in the corner for a REASONABLE amount of time (my wife suggests 1 minute, per age year) is more effective than yelling or threatening with a spanking, and temporarily losing priveledges is way more effective than a spanking.. regardless of what level of discipline is required, the most important thing I’ve learned is to sit down, after the fact, and explain why your child is being punished, and make suggestions to how they can avoid a reoccurance.
Who would have thought?! It all makes sense… It’s logical and has taught me a level of patience and underatanding I never thought possible…
I hope any young or new parent can take something away from this… I’ve only been doing it for 4 years, and I have learned sooo much in such a short time! 
Thanks for reading.. I’m still sitting on the couch, unable to fall asleep, so I figured I’d jot down what was on my mind!

-Joe