Oh where, oh where has your little Joe been

Firstly,

I’d like to apologize for my absence. Though my followers are few, you’re my followers.

My youngest child was born unexpectedly at the end of June (5 weeks early!) and my life got pretty busy for a while!  My wife and baby are both healthy. Her big sisters are all super proud, as am I… for the strength and fortitude they showed through a slightly bumpy ride.

That being said,

I am going to make a better attempt at writing posts!  There’s been a lot of good going on in my life, and I’ve got a lot to share!

I’ve been playing a lot!

My acoustic shows have been plentiful and full of great crowds of people. I’ve had more people coming to ME for bookings, as opposed to having to seek them out myself.. Which is great!!

I’ve begun teaching

my wife, mainly, to play guitar! She’s a fantastic singer, and she also wants to take on the role of a solo performer. We’re also working on building a nice, completely mobile, 2 channel recording rig, that can be used in studio, or live performances… but more on that later!

I’ve been trying

to push myself back into the world of social media… I’ll be posting some cover videos and even some of my original music, as I get situated with everything..

That being said:

Thank you all for hanging out and not writing me off yet!!  I am going to make a real attempt to update this weekly.. I doubt I’ll have time for daily posts, but we’ll see what the future brings!

As always, thank you, and have a great day!!

 

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I forgot to post… since Friday..

Hello, my friends! My micr-tour kicked my ass this week! Finally ends tonight, with a short acoustic gig in Montgomery.

I must say, though. 3 days in a row with great crowds was fantastic!!

I’m drawing a blank on the two most recent daily posts… maybe because it’s 5:30AM and I haven’t had any coffee yet… Maybe I’ll get hit with some inspiration later!

So, how are you all doing? It’s a beautiful morning. The birds woke me up at about 4:30… Of course I didn’t fall asleep until about 11:30… so, we’re functioning on fumes, here.

I just wanted to drop in and let you all know I’m still here. I haven’t given up on blogging yet!

Hope you have a great Sunday, I’ll try to post again!

-Joe

Stuck in Survival Mode

Survive...
I feel like I’ve sold my soul to survive.
The irony is, I feel less alive.
Give of myself, to make the months rent,
but money isn’t the only thing spent.
A part of me dies, with each passing day.
A part of my life, I’ll never repay.
The weight of the world, my boots full of lead.
The the hell I endure, to purchase some bread.
Yet I press on, drag feet through the mud,
survive daily battles, and pay with my blood.
The struggle is worth it, and you know it’s true.
For I’d give all my worth, to come home to you.

 

I’m not one for poetry… But this just popped into my mind.

I’ve been struggling a lot lately, with stress at my job. It’s absolutely exhausting to put up with the drama that these middle-aged angry men thrive in.
I’ve been craving a change. I’ve never been one to stick with a place of employment, when I know I’m not going anywhere. The job market just sucks right now, and I don’t make bad money.  I do feel that, this place drains me of my being and squashes my ability to create.

Fortunately, I get to go home to my family, every day, and they keep me going. Music, also keeps my head above water.

My wife and I have been discussing some major changes in scenery, and I couldn’t be more excited planning out our lives together. Even just exploring the ideas of being somewhere, other than this secluded valley we live in, excite the hell out of me! I think the both of us have been in survival mode, for so long, we have trouble being able to enjoy our lives to the fullest. Life with 4 kids, isn’t easy, but we are proud to say that they get the opportunities to do the things they want to do, unlike we did as children. We both came from not-very-well-off families, and have been blessed to be more successful, than where we came from. With that success, comes the chance to give our children the opportunities that we never had.  The only downfall of that is: a creative person, like myself, has to give up on some of my own dreams.  I’ve come to terms with the fact that I’ll never be a famous, touring musician a LOOONG time ago, and honestly, that’s not something I’ve ever been upset about. I enjoy being a local musician, and working with businesses in my region to try and get all of our names out there. So for my girls to be passionate about dance, singing, music, art, whatever they want to do.. is far more rewarding, especially with my ability to help them on some of it (mostly the music.. I’m not much of a dancer.. which is why I play music haha.)

Anywho, I’m done ranting. I hope you all are having a great week! My gig last night was a great success, and I’m on to gig #2 at the Four Friends Winery in Montgomery PA

 

Take care,

-Joe

I can’t figure this out…

This isn’t so much a post, as a “How the hell am I supposed to do this?!”

I absolutely, for the life of me, can not figure out how to get my site to properly display my Twitter feed….

I’ve tried the widget, I’ve tried direct HTML, I’ve tried everything!!

How the heck does it work?! Help!!!

Catapult yourself into the pool of ignorance.

We’re not here to talk about weaponry, we’re here to react to the word catapult.. which was a weapon…  I’m sure there’s going to be enough about that.. I’m going to shoot for something else… Pun intended.
I’ve been around for almost 30 years now… I was just about the last generation of children that remembers life without the internet. I spoke in a previous post about “When the last time you bought a full video game was,” and it’s been a long time. I blame that on the internet.. In fact, I blame most things on the internet, in jest, and in a serious manner.

What are people constantly trying to do these days? Make their lives like as important as possible, as to catapult themselves to viral popularity.  I see so many people doing ridiculous things on video, saying rotten things on Twitter, jumping on internet trend bandwagons,… writing blogs… Just to get their 15 minutes seconds of fame.

Why do we do that? Is it because we’ve been put on the same social platforms as famous people? Is it because we were raised to follow our dreams?

Hell if I know.

Growing up in the 90’s, the only time you saw lunacy, at this scale, was during an episode of “America’s Funniest Home Videos.” Now, for those of you who aren’t aware, it was a TV show, hosted by Bob Saget (in its most memorable years), where people would send in cassettes of amateurishly filmed home videos where their child, awkward uncle, dad, or someone would do something funny, and the funniest video won money.

Maybe that was the problem.. They were paying people to accidentally look like a fool..

These days, people do it on purpose (Eyes on you Youtubers) for the sake of fandom. So, before Netflix, Hulu, Amazon, and any other instant-video service, you were only exposed to this kind of silliness once a week, around 7:00PM (Eastern Time Zone).
Now you have 24/7 access to an endless ocean of lunatics.
We’ve overexposed ourselves to stupidity and now, the general population craves it, like a drug. 

Don’t believe me? Have you seen this thing that’s out now? It’s called Trailer Park Boys, before that was Jackass, and before too long, it’ll be this gem, from ‘Idiocracy’:

We’re literally spending time that we could be learning things, reading, studying, enjoying our world.. to watch other people delve into the depths of ridiculousness… all to fling themselves to be a marketable piece of data, for some internet company.

I can only speak from my American perspective… but it’s getting out of hand.

To conclude, there’s a song I wrote a while back, called stupid people. It’s my call to the general populous to open their eyes, unite themselves, and not let themselves be dumbed-down so easily.

This was recorded a while ago, and my youngest daughter was sleeping, so I held back on the vocals a bit… haha

As always, have a great day!!!

Catapult

Dehydration and Rock & Roll

Happy Monday…

What. A. Weekend!

My band played the Lifting Little Lives benefit this weekend, and what I remember of it was great!!

Lifting Little Lives is a local nonprofit organization based out of Milton Pennsylvania, that raises money for local children, with big needs!

My band, Audiobox, chose this group for many reasons.
• The money all stays local, So we see its effects in our community

• The people who run it, are some of the best people we’ve ever had the pleasure to         work with.

• The organization helps promote our struggling music scene. (This should be key         for any musician!!)

• All of us are fathers, and we understand that our children are the most important        thing in today’s society.

That being said, they throw one heck of a party! The security keeps it safe for everyone, and the connections I make with other musicians, are generally very long term friendships!

Also, there’s great food, beer for anyone staying there, and just so many great times to be had!

That’s why I named this blog, the way I did. I generally drink a ton of water, usually about a gallon or more a day… This weekend that water was replaced with beer & Jameson. Phew… My poor body is in recovery mode…

Not only did I play an awesome, all original set with Audiobox, I also was the emergency backup bassist for local heavyweights “Aftermath.” I was honored to tickle my 4 strings with them, and it was a fun set!  On top of all that, Audiobox also did an impromptu acoustic set, between two other acts (make things transition smoother.)

Anywho, it was a great time, and if you have a minute, check out Lifting Little Lives, and let them know that what they do, is very important to the world.

Are there any local charities in your area, that you think go above and beyond the call of duty? Let me know! At the very least, I can give their Facebook pages a like!

As always, thank you for your time, sorry I didn’t post yesterday, I’m lucky I could even move!

-Joe

 

Joe Flair’s search for patience

Anyone who says being married takes a lot of patience, has never had kids.

Let’s rewind a few years… I was, for all intents and purposes, a mess of a human being. I was single, after a long relationship. I filled my spare time up with playing music (be it gigs, sitting around my house, or jamming with friends), work, and drinking..

I did whatever I want, whenever I wanted… and I was still unhappy!

Then, August of 2013, my life changed drastically. I met the woman who is now my wife, and not too long after, my first two kids! I was now suddenly a 25 year old, who knew nothing about raising children, and I guess didn’t quite understand the gravity of what I was doing. My wife is a patient woman, she’s a great mother, (we’re on our way to our 4th daughter), and she’s a patient wife. 

I know I’m not easy to live with… I can be loud, I can be distant, I don’t do well in large crowds of strangers (says the guy in a regionally popular rock band.. but more on that some other time), and I had a lot to learn when I first took on being a dad… on fact there’s always more to learn!!

I grew up in a very non-traditional way.. my parents trusted me, expected me to carry my weight, be responsible, and let me fend for myself… I didn’t get handouts, hell i never even asked.. it was disrespectful, in my mind.

So, naturally, I grew into a very stubborn adult.. Until this point in my life, I did things my way.. Surprisingly, I never failed to feed myself or have a roof over my head…

Now, here I sit on my couch with my almost 2 year old, trying to keep her comfortable and quiet… since 4AM, when her older sister (4Y.O.) woke up in a panic from a bad dream/having to pee… 

If you would have told me, 5 years ago, that I would be in this situation today, I would’ve laughed in your face… I never was going to have kids… It was nothing but a hinderance in my mind…

Boy, was I wrong… I love my children, more than words can describe… raising them has taught me so much. I am more patient and calm, then i ever was.. I still get to be a musician (by the grace of my awesome, patient wife.), and there is nothing like the feeling of being wanted, as much as those children want you to love them.

It truely is the greatest job in the world.

Now, on to my patience… I was raised with discipline… Sometimes more harsh than it should be… but, ya know, it was the 80’s and 90’s and a totally different era. In my mind, quick and harsh was the best way to scold… (like ripping off a verbal band-aid)… It didn’t take me too long to realize how ineffective that is. Especially with daughters (i was raised around my younger brother… little girls were always a mystery until now..) 

It’s more effective to calmly explain to a child that they are disappointing you, rather than explode… Being put in the corner for a REASONABLE amount of time (my wife suggests 1 minute, per age year) is more effective than yelling or threatening with a spanking, and temporarily losing priveledges is way more effective than a spanking.. regardless of what level of discipline is required, the most important thing I’ve learned is to sit down, after the fact, and explain why your child is being punished, and make suggestions to how they can avoid a reoccurance.
Who would have thought?! It all makes sense… It’s logical and has taught me a level of patience and underatanding I never thought possible…
I hope any young or new parent can take something away from this… I’ve only been doing it for 4 years, and I have learned sooo much in such a short time! 
Thanks for reading.. I’m still sitting on the couch, unable to fall asleep, so I figured I’d jot down what was on my mind!

-Joe